If you want to set up some non-negotiable habits in your life, you first have to answer the following question. Are there certain areas where you are trying to create consistency, but you keep falling off the ‘wagon’? If so, you are familiar with what I call the ‘all-in-all-out’ mindset. This mindset could be what’s holding you back from creating sustainable habits in your life. In order for you to see the results you are looking for, shifting that mindset could be the game changer, so let’s dive in!
The ‘all-in-all-out’ Mindset
You’re all in on a new habit, goal, project, business (from 0-60 in one day) because you are feeling super CHARGED. You are 3 days, maybe a week or two, into your new habit and you come up against a challenge, stumble a bit and go ALL OUT. And not just out for the day, you fall off hard and can’t even think about getting up and trying again for weeks, maybe even months.
This was the story of my life for YEARS when it came to working out and nutrition. I would be committed 100% and then as soon as something got in the way, I would skip a day and that day would turn into 3, which would knock me totally off track. Then I would just stay there or stay ‘out’ for far too long.
Every single time you do this you are proving to yourself that this is your pattern and you can’t change it. You are proving to the inner-mean-girl-voice-in-your-head that you will never commit to anything. And that is what keeps killing the belief you have in yourself.
Let’s Shift this Mindset by Setting Non-Negotiables
Let’s prove to ourselves that we CAN stay committed to the things we want and desire in life. Healthy habits, a thriving business, a healthy and loving home, a beautiful relationship with our partner. We can shift it by SLOWING DOWN instead of quitting. Slowing down means setting some non-negotiables or a set of minimums you do each day no matter what.
This set of minimums is just that… the minimum you are willing to do even on the days when life is challenging. Maybe it’s a commitment to moving your body for at least 10 minutes, or journaling for 5 minutes, or listening to 15 minutes of personal development, or eating 1 serving of vegetables or doing a baseline of activities for your business.
Set a NON NEGOTIABLE for yourself, starting today, and see how it shifts your commitment level around the goals you’ve set. When we set out to do something new, we go TOO BIG TOO SOON. It’s this need we have in us to cross the finish line in as short of time as possible, but creating new habits doesn’t work that way. It’s a slow churn that happens day by day by day by day.
Commit to Your Non-Negotiables
When you can commit to a certain set of non negotiables and each day you do those minimums, your life and habits WILL start to shift along with your confidence in yourself. So today is the day you make the commitment to a SMALL set of minimums you WILL do. I am giving you permission to start slow and work on shifting this pattern of ALL IN, ALL OUT.
If you’d like to hear me talk about it in more depth, listen to my recent podcast, One Simple Mindset Shift to Create Powerful Habits